Meditations on Ephesians 4:29

I’ve recently been reading a book on spiritual disciplines entitled “Spiritual Disciplines for the Christian Life, by Donald Whitney. One of the disciplines that this author stresses is memorization and meditation. These two things I have greatly neglected in my spiritual life. I’ve memorized verses in AWANA and Sunday School, but I’ve never memorized simply for my personal benefit and growth in my relationship to God and my battle against sin. This author emphasizes that a few key Bible verses are not enough. He references Ephesians 6, where it talks about the sword of salvation, that is the Word of God, the Bible, in saying that one of the reasons we fail in many spiritual battles is that we are ill-equipped for battle:

“The Word of God is the ‘sword of the Spirit,’ but the Holy Spirit cannot give you a weapon you have not stored in the armory of your mind. Imagine Yourself in the midst of a decision and needing guidance, or struggling with a difficult temptation and needing victory. The Holy Spirit rushes to your mental arsenal, flings open the door, but all He finds is a John 3:16, a Genesis 1:1, and a Great Commission. Those are great swords, but they’re not made for every battle.” (Whitney 44)

So I decided to equip for battle. But simply putting to memory is just not enough. I want to meditate on it day and night, like the Psalmist in Psalm 119. I want to have these swords polished and sharpened for the days that they are needed. One of the important things in starting out on memorization is to find verses that will pertain to your struggles. I picked Ephesians 4:29 as my first verse to memorize. I struggle with saying things that are stupid, or mean jokes, or taking things too far. So, I decided to memorize a verse that would remind me to not do these things. Below is the verse, and my meditations on it.

“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.”
Ephesians 4:29

The first thing I noticed when I meditated on this verse was the usage of the word “Corrupting”. This word appears to be important, it describes the type of talk we should stay away from. Some translations use the word “unwholesome” or “harmful” (the version above is the ESV), but I like the word corrupting. The word suggests that there was something that worked, something that was good, and then got messed up somehow. It implies that the sin of “harmful” talk is something that has corrupted what was good. This shows us the attitude we should have toward Christianity. The Bible is not about do’s and do not’s, it is about restoring what sin has corrupted, the human soul. Only God can slowly restore what has been corrupted, first through the shedding of blood (Jesus’ sacrifice on the cross), Salvation, and then the work of the Holy Spirit, Sanctification. This verse deals with the second aspect, the Holy Spirit will help us throw off any corrupting talk from our mouths.
The next phrase in the verse is also interesting: “but only such as is good for building up”. This leaves no doubt about what kind of talk is corrupted: something that tears down. How hard is it to always build up? This seems like an impossible command if you look at it like always having to complement, or always having to be cordial. It doesn’t mean what you say always has to be nice, or soft. Building someone up can sometimes be hurtful for a while to the other person. Wouldn’t you say that a parent being stern with his son after he has stolen something from the market is a good thing. What about the best friend who tells her friend to break up with her boyfriend because he is not a christian? These situations are not compliments, but they are building up. Building up can be done in so many ways other than compliments, that is where the second part of this phrase comes in.

“...as fits the occasion...”. Another great phrase. We must be sure that our building up fits the occasion. Whether we need to be stern, kind, loving, tender, tough, brotherly, fatherly, motherly, self-controlled, angry, or any other attitude is reflected by the occasion. We must be sure our building up fits the occasion. How do we know if it fits the occasion? If it is helpful. Some translations say “profitable for building up”. This might emphasize the point better; we must build up in a profitable way. I think the best way we can prepare for this is to pray that the Holy Spirit might give us wisdom to discern profitable building up in all sorts of occasions we might find ourselves in. (See James 1)

Why do we do all this? “...that it may give grace to those who hear.” We should build up to show grace. Grace is a most unusual thing, an amazing and glorious thing! Jesus showed us the most amazing grace in history with His death and resurrection, all to redeem us from our sin. For nothing we did; we did not deserve it to any extent. We were lost, ugly in our sin, whores and slaves to unrighteousness, a dead people. God loved us however, and he saved us from ourselves. He showed us the most amazing grace that has ever and will ever exist. This is the beauty of Christ. We are recipients of a Divine Grace that we do not deserve, why should we not pass along this great gift through our mouths. Let no corrupting talk come out of the mouths of those who have been given a grace that has restored their souls! Give grace because you have received it! What a beautiful way to talk, what a beautiful way to live, what a beautiful Savior to give us the chance!